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Truth Confronts Feelings:  Managing the Conflict Between What I Feel and What’s True

Truth Confronts Feelings: Managing the Conflict Between What I Feel and What’s True

By:  Mission Team November 16, 2020
#AmazingNation, #Faith, #Live, #Truth

So often we rely on our feelings instead of the truth. I have been there and I struggle with it daily. So many times I believe what I feel instead of what I know is true. If something goes wrong I feel incompetent. So, I made a mistake; it does not mean that I am incompetent. But I always believe the lie. That is what our feelings can do to us. They can make us believe lies. Your feelings do not always lie - you’re happy, you’re sad, you’re scared, etc. But there are times when your feelings do lie: i.e. “you’re a loser... you’re not good enough...you’re not smart enough...you’re not pretty enough....” Sound familiar? These are the lies that our feelings tell us. But that does not mean it is the truth. You cannot say you are good or you are bad because you made a mistake. Your mistakes don’t define you, what defines you is who you are. You’re amazing, you were made good and nothing can change that. I learned this slowly but surely through a few things.

1. Prayer/listening to God
Ask God what the Truth is about you. Ask Him if He thinks that you are a loser or not worth it. I can tell you what He will say to you. He will tell you that you are worth it. If you weren't worth it, He wouldn’t have sent His Son to die on the Cross for you. God does not see you as a loser. Trust me, He will tell you that you are good enough. How do I know? Because He told me the same thing. He told me through the cross that I am worth dying for. God will tell you that you are incredible because you are His; and that is all that matters.

2. Commit to believe the truth
Committing to recognizing the lies, and pushing them out of my mind is something that helps me to stay grounded in the truth. The first step to change is recognizing what needs to change. Believe in the truth. The truth that you are not inferior, you are important, and you are worth it. I have been relying on my feelings for years, the feeling that I am not good enough or not capable. For the first time in my life, I am starting to see that these are lies. There may be someone who can do it better, but it does not matter. The truth is that I'm good enough, I am a Child of God. He made you that way too - good, important and special, you just have to believe it! I’ve started to recognize more quickly when I am hearing a lie and listening to it instead of the truth.

3. Accountability
On my worst days, what is easiest for me to do is to isolate and shut out other people. But this isn’t helpful to living in the truth. I need other people to hold me accountable in order to see outside of my own feelings and thoughts. Maybe it’s a close friend or family member, but have someone in your life who you trust do a daily feelings check with you. I did this recently when I was having a very hard time not beating up on myself. I committed to sharing with my roommate one feeling a day. This held me accountable to living in truth and to beat isolation.

4. No excuses!
I have an introverted personality. This makes it easy for me to make excuses or to blame my inability to see truth on being shy and unable to communicate. Whatever the excuse or tendency is, don’t let it hold you back from the truth. In the times when I’m most afraid or uncomfortable, that’s when the opportunity to grow is most for me. I am getting better at living truth, for not blaming the lies on my personality or introverted nature. Even introverts who are ‘always in their head’ can live a free and truth-filled life!

Most people don’t see how much they are worth because they focus on their feelings and not on what God says of them. But God speaks truth and will always tell you what is true. You have to fight to find the truth, because living in the truth makes you dangerous to the enemy and he won’t make it easy. So, first go to God, then you surround yourself with good people to hold you accountable and speak truth to you in love. Allow yourself to be held accountable, and don’t make excuses. Joy and freedom are awaiting you!

Photo Credits:
"My Face Tells A Story of A confused man" by Mustafa Khayat is licensed under CC BY-ND 2.0 "The Happy Guy" by kevin dooley is licensed under CC BY 2.0 "family jumps again" by Evil Erin is licensed under CC BY 2.0

About the Author Mission TeamThe mission team is made up of writers within the HN team who serve for a time with our ministry to Awaken the World to the Power of God's Love. Through their efforts, their vision of making a world where no one suffers alone is an encouragement to many hurting people of all ages. 


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