Hard as Nails Ministries
The Vocation of Waiting

The Vocation of Waiting

By:  Mission Team January 15, 2021
#AmazingNation, #Encouragement, #Hope, #love, #Struggle

Ever since I was about 15, I have had a deep desire and longing inside of me to be married. As an 18-year-old, I was sure the time was coming soon, and I believed I was so prepared for life and marriage. Thankfully, God had other ideas, and I am still single! From time to time in this period of waiting for my future vocation to be shown to me and actively lived out, I go through intense periods of struggle or discouragement. It can almost feel impossible, or completely far-fetched to have hope for a future relationship.

I know if you relate, you can probably expect what I am going to say to be cliché, or something that you’ve heard a thousand times. But give me a chance! No, my longing and waiting isn’t completely gone, but there are some incredible things to know in this time of waiting. I believe I am in a time that can be defined as “the vocation of waiting”.

God won’t show you gold and give you silver
This phrase above has given me incredible hope in times of waiting. It keeps coming up, so I keep repeating it to myself. God desires gold for me in a spouse and doesn’t want me to settle for silver. He wants the perfect vocation for me, not a mediocre one. So, if that means waiting for gold, I’m in! I’ll keep digging.

Fall in love with God’s goodness
Sometimes I don’t want to hope, and I feel ALL the emotions of loneliness, desire for a companion, and frustration when I see other couples. Lately as I’ve brought that to prayer, the Lord has channeled those emotions into a call to trust him more radically. He is so good and shows up every time. His plan is perfect, and inexplicably beautiful. I must give that plan a shot, because his goodness is much more trustworthy than my human plans. I want to fall in love with His goodness before I fall in love with a spouse. This song helps me to lean into God in times of waiting! (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1OSdqV6PJj8)

I can’t emphasize enough the role service plays in my waiting years. When I’m in a rut, looking around and finding ways to serve has changed my heart. I am channeling my energy and love for my future spouse, and pouring it into others who may never have another person to love them. Finding new ways to serve forces me outside of my head, and into my heart that was made to give and to love, no matter what stage I am in. Don’t let those self-destructive behaviors start when you’re discouraged! Take that energy and use it! It changes you, I promise!

So, as I write this blog in the late hours of the night, a deep knowing, a deep sense of peace and a deep trust is growing in my heart. My vocation right now is to wait. And to continue to discover the beauty of God in the waiting. I hold fast to the very real, very tangible, very intimate relationship that I have with my God. That will never change, even when I am married or in a relationship. I will always need my Father to fill the voids that well up inside of me. I am never satisfied on earth, which is why I constantly need to be in communion with the One who is outside of this earth. Every day I get to touch heaven at Mass. Every day my Savior calls me to unite my wounded nature to his wounded body on the cross. He doesn’t just want to change the world; He wants to change the world with me. What an honor to wait with the God who waits for me every day.

Photo Credits:
"The kindness of strangers" by Ed Yourdon is licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 2.0
"Money money money" by James Cridland is licensed under CC BY 2.0
"Little Girl Smiles in Kiddie Pool" by Lynn Friedman is licensed under CC BY-NC-ND 2.0

About the Author Mission TeamThe mission team is made up of writers within the HN team who serve for a time with our ministry to Awaken the World to the Power of God's Love. Through their efforts, their vision of making a world where no one suffers alone is an encouragement to many hurting people of all ages. 


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