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Winning My Wife’s Heart Back: The 3 V’s of Breakthrough

Winning My Wife’s Heart Back: The 3 V’s of Breakthrough

By:  Justin Fatica July 19, 2021

When I was in College at Seton Hall, I was dating my (now) wife, Mary. We broke up for a period of time and I was absolutely crushed. I had lost the second best thing that had ever happened to me (my conversion to Jesus being first) and I needed a breakthrough. If you want to make a breakthrough in your life, you need to look at the challenges you’ve been through and follow the 3 V’s of Breakthrough, then help others follow the 3 V’s too.

Listen to the VOICE of Truth 

The Senior Ball was during our breakup and I had the opportunity to go with another girl. At first I believed that there was nothing wrong with bringing another girl to the Senior Ball, but that was a lie. I had to fight the lie. The voice of truth was saying "Don't take another girl because if you do you will never have a shot with Mary again." I listened to the voice of truth.

In order to have a breakthrough, you must let the voice of truth dictate your lives. There is no more listening to the lies in your mind. When you know who God says you are, then you will be strong enough to let others know who they are by my witness to God’s mercy and glory. In 1 Peter 2:9, God tells us who we are, and gives us His truth: “But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.”


During our breakup, I really had to be vulnerable with God, which meant that I had to be honest with the areas of my life that I needed to change. I also had to ask myself, "Do I want the best girl ever?" YES! Of course! So I had to be real with God and tell Him that I didn't believe I was good enough for Mary. It was through that vulnerability that God was making a breakthrough in my life.

You can have a breakthrough when you are truly vulnerable with God too. Don't be afraid to tell Him how you really feel by talking to Him as a friend in prayer. When you go to the places that hurt, the parts of your heart that may be scary to look at, that is where God works the most. Let Him take your vulnerability, and turn it into His glory! That creates a breakthrough that will be a light to others around you. 2 Corinthians 12:9 tells us “But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

Let God have VICTORY in your life

If I didn't listen to the voice of truth or be vulnerable with God during my "days without Mary" then I never would have had the greatest victory in my life. My greatest Victory in life was winning my wife's heart back!

When you listen to the voice of truth and when you are vulnerable with Christ, He will give us a Victory! The word of God says “What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31). We cannot lose with God! God desires to give each of us a great victory in our life and to grant us the freedom to live a life with Him on earth and in heaven. So have a breakthrough today by following the 3 V's!


Lord, help me to hear the voice of truth today. Help me to listen to what You say and not to what my mind says. Help me to be more vulnerable with you and others in my life who I trust. Help me to surrender to the victory that you want to give me. Help me to have a breakthrough. Amen.

Take Action:

Commit today to prayer time and reflect on who God says you are. Be honest and vulnerable with God and surrender what is hard for you right now. Anticipate the victory that He is already working in your life.



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