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Tears Are a Sign of Strength, Not Weakness

Tears Are a Sign of Strength, Not Weakness

By:  Mission Team July 10, 2021

“I will not cry. I will not show fear! I am strong!” Ah yes, my battle cry, how silly I was to think that this mentality would make me strong. I trained myself to never shed a tear. I looked at crying as being a sign of weakness. The only emotions I would show were joy and anger.

Never would I cry, never would I show fear. This destroyed me on the inside. I only cried if I went through excruciating pain, and that happened when I broke my wrist and the doctor had to straighten my bone. That was it, no emotion, I wanted only to be strong. But what I didn't know was that if I cried with someone else, that was showing true strength.

Jesus cried; as a matter of fact, He wept.

 When His dear friend Lazarus died, Jesus mourned for his death. "When Jesus saw her weeping and the Jews who had come with her weeping, He became perturbed and deeply troubled. And said ‘Where have you laid him?’ They said to Him, ‘Sir come and see.’ And Jesus wept." ~ John: 11:33-35

Jesus is freaking the strongest of the strong and He cried. We live in a twisted world where to be strong you have to be heartless. But the most powerful person has the biggest heart. I remember when I brought up this to my friend that I never cry and she said that she struggled with the same thing as me, but she was told that she had 20 years of catching up to do. But there was something else to that catching up. The tears that would be shed could not be for her own sake, but for others.

When you cry, you want to shed these tears for someone else. When someone is suffering because their dad died or they don’t want to continue living, that is when you can cry with them. And by golly, that is when you show your true strength; that even though people might be staring at you or making fun of you, you can cry with that person that is in need.


You might have heard this mentioned before that tears are liquid prayers. Each tear is a prayer to God. And this is what we can offer for someone else. Tears can be beautiful; we just need to show them in the proper way.

“Tears shed for self are tears of weakness, but tears shed for others are a sign of strength.” ~ Billy Graham

This guy knew what he was talking about. Shedding your tears for yourself is when you are not strong enough to push on, or you are not able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But when you shed tears and it's for the sake of someone else, you are showing that person specifically that you will push through with them, that you will help them see the light at the end of the tunnel.

When you shed a tear, don’t waste it on yourself, use it for the good that it can be used for. Use your tears to impart the message to that kid who is suffering that you are there for them, that you will help them through their struggle by walking with them. Tears can be very painful sometimes, yes, but I urge you reader to cry for someone else. Jose N. Harris said this beautifully:

“Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness They are a sign of a pure heart." ~ Jose N. Harris

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About the Author Mission TeamThe mission team is made up of writers within the HN team who serve for a time with our ministry to Awaken the World to the Power of God's Love. Through their efforts, their vision of making a world where no one suffers alone is an encouragement to many hurting people of all ages. 


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