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Overcoming Rejection and Finding Acceptance

Overcoming Rejection and Finding Acceptance

By:  Mission Team August 7, 2021
#Encouragement, #hardasnails, #Leadership, #Strength , #Winning

I want to begin by asking you to picture a scene: a young boy walking around in his neighborhood, sun shining, birds chirping, and temperature juuuuuust right. All of a sudden, he hears the joyful noise of laughter coming from the bottom of the hill. He goes to see what it is: kickball! Oh Boy!! He hurries over and asks to play. And their response: “Go away, we don’t want you here, leave us alone!" That is the first time I can remember being truly rejected...

A Persistent Theme
As the years went on, the theme of rejection continued. In eighth grade, I sat at a lunch table with two of my friends while every other guy in my grade sat at another table. Freshman year, I was ignored for half the year by the table I sat at, and for the majority of high school I had a very small group of friends, as I felt most people would not give me the time of day. These events all seem very minor, but the feelings within me where anything but. I remember coming home one day in eighth grade and crying to my mom: “I feel so sad right now. I literally wish I could just die and it would all be over.” I felt worthless, unimportant, and started forming a shell around my emotions. I felt like I was constantly judged by others, and the only way to get them to stop judging (and subsequently rejecting) was to say nothing and do nothing in public. These feelings I had from rejection persisted relentlessly within me until Jesus came to take me out.


Loving Grace

 I will never forget the moment that I felt the most love in my entire life. And nobody was even speaking to me. It was Senior year of high school. I had decided to go on a retreat that I had heard great things about, but thus far it had failed to impress me. On the second night, we all sat down in a chapel and the leaders had us close our eyes. As we sat there, thuds of paper could be heard. When we were told to open our eyes, we were greeted with a manila envelope with our name on it. Upon opening my envelope, I found dozens upon dozens of letters from people I knew who I thought did not even know I existed. In the middle of reading one of these incredible letters, I stopped, sat, and felt this incomprehensible wave of love cascade over my entire body. In that moment, all the years of rejection were thrown to the wayside, as Jesus Christ wrote His own letter to me on my heart. He continued to reveal Himself to me through the remaining letters, and laid down the grace of self-love before my feet.

Accepting Myself
In reflecting on that time, I realized the simple truth that Christ wanted to teach me. How could I expect others to accept me when I could not even accept myself? In the midst of the external rejection from others, there was an internal rejection of my own person. “Why can’t you be funnier? Why can’t you be more handsome? Why do you have the most awkward conversations with people… How could anyone love you?” Jesus Christ thinks I’m funny. Jesus Christ created me in His image and likeness, so I must not look too bad. And Jesus Christ loves me. If you need proof, it’s hanging in almost any Catholic building: the Cross.

I am incredibly grateful for the truth that the Lord revealed to me and continues to reveal to me. He has placed great friends in my life, but more importantly He has transformed my interior. The feelings of rejection and sadness that had once dominated my mind have been greatly diminished, and the love I have for myself has grown. My ultimate goal, which is a work in progress, is to view the rejection I experience from others as a gift from Christ. I want to be grateful for rejection, to not be discouraged when it rears its ugly head. The Lord will bring me there, but only if I trust Him and fully surrender to His Loving Heart.

Photo Credits:


 "Alone"by JB London is licensed under CC BY-NC 2.0
"A Imperial love letter b/w"by Kalexanderson is licensed under CC BY-NC-ND 2.0

About the Author Mission TeamThe mission team is made up of writers within the HN team who serve for a time with our ministry to Awaken the World to the Power of God's Love. Through their efforts, their vision of making a world where no one suffers alone is an encouragement to many hurting people of all ages. 


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