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Reason, Season, Lifetime: Taking the Pressure Off of Relationships

Reason, Season, Lifetime: Taking the Pressure Off of Relationships

By:  Amazing Nation Guest Writer March 27, 2021

One of the most valuable lessons I learned about relationships, specifically friendships, was the idea of reason, season and lifetime. I tend to place high expectations on people and relationships. I used to constantly feel like I was being let down, or letting other people down when it came to relationships in my life. Not just family or romantic relationships, but friendships, acquaintances and strangers as well. I was always feeling bad for not investing in people more, or timid to make new friends out of fear that I wouldn’t be able to keep them long term. Something that changed this struggle was the reason, season, lifetime concept.


What is the reason, season, lifetime concept?

It’s an approach to take when viewing the relationships in our lives. A mentor in my life shared this with me, and I’ve found this to be so valuable. Simply put, it’s taking every relationship in our life and putting them in one of the three categories.


Some people are in our lives for a reason. We may not know how long this time will last, but that doesn’t mean it’s not important. Maybe this person is in our life to help us through a tough time, to help us to grow, or to bring joy for a time. These relationships aren’t always easy, but they are vital to our growth. Knowing someone is in your life for a reason allows freedom to let the relationship run its course, and to be in a place of acceptance.



People that are in our lives for a season can make a huge impact on who we become. We may spend a year or a few years spending a lot of time with these people. They become part of our makeup: who we are and what we believe. Choosing friends in different seasons is important, but it doesn't have to be forever. You will have different friends in high school, college, early marriage, when you have kids, and when you are older. Each of these stages are important, and these relationships bring so much value and insight into life.


Outside of our family, there are very few people who will be in the lifetime category. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that! The average person has about five people that they are lifetime friends with. Maybe you know these people currently, or maybe you’ll meet these people somewhere down the road. Your spouse or future spouse is someone who will be in this category, and maybe a childhood friend or two. But in life, so many of our friendships are for a reason or season, and that’s a beautiful thing.

The pressure is off!

We all have people in each of these categories. The pressure is taken away when we recognize that not everyone is a lifetime person. It’s totally acceptable to have someone in your life for a reason or season, and to communicate that kindly. If someone in our life is pressuring us or speaking of a lifetime commitment, it’s time to step back and realistically evaluate those statements. Is that something that you feel called to (future spouse, or lifetime friend?), or is that an unrealistic expectation? It’s okay to communicate what the result of that evaluation is in your heart. It gives freedom for yourself and the other person. We aren’t meant to have lifetime friendships with a ton of people. That is something that happens gradually and naturally.

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About the Author Amazing Nation Guest WriterAmazing Nation Guest Writers have submitted their blogs to us in hopes of encouraging others who may have had similar life experiences. They want to share hope and wisdom with every person who read their blogs.  


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