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My Vocation is Love

My Vocation is Love

 
By:  Mission Team February 14, 2021

“My vocation, at last I have found it: my vocation is love.” - St. Therese of Liseux

Have you ever felt that through your efforts to love others, it just didn’t seem like you were making any progress? You don’t know how to love them the way they want to be loved, or just made things worse? First off, I want to encourage you in that God sees your efforts! As I write this, I’m reminding myself of this as well. But truly, if you have been striving to love those around you as best you can with a pure heart, then BE ENCOURAGED! God is smiling at your loving heart that is receptive to His outpouring graces.

With that being said, you can be consoled, and still have that desire to grow in understanding of others and how to better love them. I remember the first time I heard about the love languages...I was in high school and was so excited to learn about myself and others in regards to love! Why in the dang heck are personality tests so much fun?!

If you haven't heard of the 5 love languages, I’ll briefly explain:

Quality Time: Spending undivided time with your loved one(s) whether that be through activities, conversation, car rides, an experience together, or whatever…you can affirm your love for them by being intentional with your time with them.
Words of Affirmation: speaking words that can let them know how you appreciate them or care for them, whether that be by a simple, “You look beautiful/handsome”, “I love you so much”, or “I’m so grateful for you in my life”. It may not mean much to you, but it might be all that your loved one needed to hear.
Physical Touch: connecting to your loved one by simply holding their hand, a massage, a hug, a kiss, etc… something tangible that can make them feel that connection, that they are loved, and that they are cared for.
Acts of Service: this can be shown even by listening to what can be tedious/stressful for them to accomplish. By learning and listening to them, you can better set yourself up for success in caring for them; whether that be making them a home-cooked meal, washing the dishes, prepping the kids for bed, a massage, whatever… How can you serve their needs?
Receiving Gifts: this could be a home-made meal, a store-bought gift, an experience….this is just another example of a tangible love language.

As you can see, some of the different ways you show love can be categorized into multiple love languages.

Food for thought: “Does my preferred way of receiving love affect or influence the way I show love to others? Am I more naturally drawn to love others the way I want to be loved?”

What I’ve learned about myself is that I feel so loved through just about any of the love languages. I just freakin love LOVE haha. However, the ones that can really fill up MY love tank are Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch. Just to physically hear and feel that I am loved means so much to me and can lift my spirit up so much. Whereas when someone says something unkind or condescending to me, it can really hurt. I’m striving to grow to where it doesn’t affect my spirit, but it’s still a work in progress. I’ve learned that I’m naturally inclined to show love to others through affirming words, physical touch, and acts of service.

Ultimately though, what I’ve learned in regards to others' love languages is that if I’m going to commit to showing them their love language or JUST LOVING THEM in general…I need to be present and intentional. That means I need to put the phone down if I’m going to talk to my sister and spend quality time; I need to show that there was thought and care behind a gift that I gave Tommy (not a real person, just an example). I don’t need to be perfect, but I should make an effort to sincerely care. It may seem so meaningless to me, but it could mean the world to them.

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
- Mahatma Gandhi.

Find out what your love language is here:
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

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About the Author Mission TeamThe mission team is made up of writers within the HN team who serve for a time with our ministry to Awaken the World to the Power of God's Love. Through their efforts, their vision of making a world where no one suffers alone is an encouragement to many hurting people of all ages. 


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