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Love is Not a Hallmark Movie

Love is Not a Hallmark Movie

By:  Mission Team April 7, 2021

Ah yes, love. What a beautiful thing it is. It is a convenient thing that I am writing this blog in between St. Valentine’s day and the start of the Spring, which is coincidentally the two most “romantic” times of the year.

It is times of the year like this that tell us that our love lives need to be defined by the sappiness of every movie on the Hallmark Channel. 


 It is the world and the culture we live in that tells us that if we have this Hallmark love life, that we will live happily ever after, but we fail to understand how insanely difficult and painful love really is….

 In all reality, love is never as peachy keen as even the most realistic movies and TV shows lead us to believe. I see so many times that even in the movies most grounded in reality, that it makes the protagonist get that happy ending with his or her love interest, regardless of how terrible the circumstances are. The thing that leads most of these interpretations of love in error is that they fail to understand the quintessential concept for which all love exists: sacrifice.


Love is clearly and wonderfully defined when Christ says, “Greater love has no one than this, that a person will lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13). This definition transcends immediately what modern media is feeding to us and does this by showing how sacrifice is the key to love, not emotions, public displays of affection, or proclaiming the ever-overused “I love you.”

The reason sacrifice is so integral to love, rather than modern interpretation, boils down to God, who is Love itself. God proclaims time and time again throughout scripture that He is Love, and ultimately proved it to us by taking on the form of a lowly man and allowed Himself to die at the hands of the very people He created, in order to pay for the price of our own transgressions against Him.

Now because God is Love and He proved that to us through sacrificing Himself for us, love equals sacrifice. To make this simple enough for us to understand how to work through love, it can be broken down very easily.

In a way that imitates Christ, we can show love by helping others and caring for their needs, especially when we do not want help at all. Dying to ourselves, by giving up on our wants and desires in the selfless service of another, is what Christ has called us to do by His example on earth.

As much as we all want that Hallmark movie happy ending, deep down inside, we need to understand that those movies and stories lack the true point to love. Now emotions do play a role in romantic love, but that is only a fraction of love itself. All love is included under sacrifice.

Not even on your wedding day (even if marriage is where God calls you) will everything be hunky-dory from there on out. Many sacrifices will have to be made in order to have a stable and functional marriage. In the end, we need to focus less in finding fulfillment in love through our romanticized feelings and emotions, but more on how we can sacrifice and look outside ourselves to help others.


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About the Author Mission TeamThe mission team is made up of writers within the HN team who serve for a time with our ministry to Awaken the World to the Power of God's Love. Through their efforts, their vision of making a world where no one suffers alone is an encouragement to many hurting people of all ages. 


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